"There is an elephant in the room but he thinks it's a pony?!" is the title of OUR journal through this maze of changing direction and adventure. Our life changed in 2010 not only with the deaths of two siblings but the diagnosis of Alzheimer's (not being an invited guest). Needless to say, confusion, denial, anger flooded my emotions whereas Frank just wanted to know if he needed to exercise more, eat better and get more sleep. How does one reconcile that memories are emerging from the past while new ones disappear.
Fast forward 6 years, we decided while we were still able to travel, entertain, share and make memories (our children and I will cherish) we would accept this disease as part of our journey yet not define "us" as this diagnosis blankets each of us.
Once I stopped trying to fight with Alzheimer’s, accepted what Frank could do instead of what he no longer could do, our life became calmer. Humor and gratitude are the foundation in our home. Frank’s honesty and concern are now daily conversation however the blessing in all of this is he releases the concerns and forgets we had the talk. Stress is gone and life continues. There are two Franks, Alzheimer's and what still remains of himself. Both are embraced with Patience and respect. (he can ask the same question 15 times and then the patience level is tested) If and when I do lose it, he forgets there was an outburst; for this, I say "thank you"! We took vows 35 years ago and we both have had to honor them. And so it goes, another chapter ends and a new one begins.